-59: Dua bulan lagi!

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(Photo credit: Sham.sydar A.ni)

Two days ago was our first year anniversary of being engaged! And in exactly two months this time we’ll be done with everything, packing for our honeymoon and can finally put this all aside but right now I can’t so here’s a lengthy update on three main things.

Wedding card: All 600 arrived yesterday but the guy got the design completely wrong. Same color scheme but it’s not what I asked for. I’ve been liaising with him but on the day when I went over to his place to choose the design, I liaised with his wife and I suspect she had written the card code wrong. What’s ridiculous is that he knew which design I’ve been talking about when he’s doing the drafts yet he settled with what his wife had written. I’m not blaming the wife lah but.. ape ni..

My aunt (the caterer/planner who works with this guy since the card booking is part of her package) is upset that this happened and wanted him to reprint everything for me. I said no lah of course. Am I upset? Obviously lah. I was outside when my aunt came to deliver the cards and my mom sent me a picture and I was like wait….. what….. no….

Ikutkan hati nak je dia reprint cos I don’t know if he’s apologetic about it like he didn’t even text me to say sorry about the mix up. But the content is correct and it’s just the front design yang lain which doesn’t look too bad lah actually. Just that it’s not what I initially wanted so adalah terkilan sikit. I’ll just let this go lah. With this my wedding card is settled so yay I guess.

Henna: The (only) henna artist that I want since April went mia after ramadan for more than a month so I couldn’t book a slot (she said she’d only open in July but mia) so I was just waiting and waiting. She suddenly had a booth last two weekends and I was ecstatic okay and super kancheong so I made Ghibli drive me there to book her for my wedding…. only to find out that she’ll be overseas on my wedding week. I was just like …wtf but haha it’s not her fault lah obviously. But if you had replied my emails I could have used the time to source for alternatives you know? Haha whatever lah.

So I did just the past two weeks and they are either not free or I don’t like their works (i.e. super dark/black cappings). The one who fits the bill now decided to not reply my email from two weeks ago despite me sending two follow ups. Again I’ll just wait until she suddenly tells me she’s not available so I have an excuse to punch myself in the face. In the end kalau tak ada then I’ll just go henna-less lah. Tak payah nak susah susah makan panadol pasal pening sangat dengan bau dia sampai muntah muntah.. which happened to me when I got mine done at the booth.

Decor: Again this falls under my aunt but the guy has his own decor company so he’s pretty legit and I’m not worried. We met up two weeks ago and I thought we’d be discussing the color etc but it was just to discuss where goes what. It’ll be a completely different set up from my brother’s wedding last October in terms of where the food will be, having an extra tentage for the pelamin, using only half of the void deck so it’s gonna be cramp af with guests and tables.

He said we’ll only be discussing the decor itself next month after he’s settled with his upcoming events. I don’t think I’m so particular about this. I know the color scheme that I want and it’s all something that he’s done before so I leave it to him cos I know he’s gonna pull it off. I don’t have a moodboard up on my pinterest because it’s just gonna sakitkan hati when reality doesn’t match up with my expectations. Like my wedding cards ahahhahais

I should be done settling the photobooth matters this week, stamping my wedding envelopes this weekend because I finally received my customised rubber stamp yay, finalise the itinerary (tak abis abis seh ni dari start of the year lagi)… and I think that’s all for this month. Everything else I will dump to next month to settle!!

5 months to go so here’s an update!

Marriage preparation ourse: Went for our 1 day course at Apkim yesterday and we found ourselves crying 20 minutes into it haha sampai the trainer said she’s never come across such cengeng couple during these courses. First half was the personalised session while the second half we joined five other couples and it was hilarious. Except for the part where the second trainer keeps making sexual jokes and I don’t know about you, but I HATE it when Malays make sexual jokes like I will honestly get so uncomfortable and cringe. Not saying I’m a prude but sigh. I understand the whole layaning the husband is a wife’s responsibility but the whole time during the course it sounds like as if wives are sexual slaves. Then the whole class started laughing when I asked, “abeh kalau isteri nak tapi suami tak nak?” and the trainer lagi boleh cakap, “kalau gitu suami tu bodoh namanya!!” I don’t know how to feel about this. Oh wells that aside, most importantly, everything taught ada unsur-unsur agama. I’ve also been attending marriage related classes conducted by Muslim Youth Forum since beginning of the year when I’m free and the recent one titled “Sharing Your Husband with Your Mother In Law” was absolutely amazing.

Kain for family: The family has also settled their kains for Saturday and Sunday. Lepas beban because we’ve been debating what colors to wear and my brother told me off when I said no to one of the laces because “bukan kau yang pakai ape!!” haha memang betul but NO.

Dulang: Tarte had their festival sale last month and Sephora had the recent black sale and with this, I spent a whopping $7xx on makeup lol I hate myself Banyak lah nak save duit. Some of the items will go on my dulang so I’ve got about three settled. Left with two more dulangs. Need to buy ring and last dulang next month so tak payah pikir pasal ni lagi. Such unnecessary spending haha ugh

Tok Kadi/ROMM: We can register this coming week and I’m not sweating about this since my tunang and his mom will settle on “booking” of the tok kadi. Initially wanted my uncle-in-law to be my saksi and I was set on this for months until I realise how come I didn’t ask my brother eh? My mom talked to him about it to see if he’s okay and he was like yes of course and then she said “okay jangan pergi mana mana hari tu” ??????? Adik dia nak nikah kot?? Mana eh dia nak pergi?? Kelakar seram mak aku ni satu

Wedding card: Talked to the guy on whatsapp (my aunt got me to liaise directly with him) and he sent me basically a million pictures of wedding card samples until I don’t know how to choose. Coincidentally he lives right behind my workplace so I asked if it’s okay to meet him during lunch time to see the samples in real life and he said okay so yay meeting him tomorrow to finalise. Then left with the details and hopefully can no longer think about this by end of this month.

I don’t know what else. Still relaxed. About 150 days left. I hope to not worry about this during Ramadan so I can fully focus on my much needed detox and cleansing myself haha. Things should start getting busy in July. Kalau July pon masih relaxed aku tak tahu ape nak cakap.

Setengah tahun lagi gang!

6months

I’m left with less than six months to the wedding (WHAT! where did the time go?!) and it has also been six months since my last (also the first) meeting with my caterer (who will also be doing my decor, berkat, wedding card, wedding cake, bridal room, sirih dara, bunga pahar, bunga rampai..) haha actually everything lah but saje nak type semua.

We finally had another meeting to finalise some things yesterday and I’m extremely glad we’re engaging a relative (the caterer’s my uncle’s wife) to be in charge of the entire wedding. It’s so easy to communicate and negotiate and she knows what I like and what I don’t and I can’t imagine having this kinda conversations with an outsider. I mean, how do you exactly ask your caterer to use the fish head from sunday’s menu to cook up kari kepala ikan for saturday night? Hahah. Sometimes I feel kita mengada ngada since tukang masak is sedara sendiri but she’s genuinely obliging so we’re all happy!

Anyway, just last weekend I was on instagram and I came across this super nice wedding card/berkat vendor from Malaysia and I was half begging my mother to let me have this and not use my aunt’s even though it’s all included in the package. She didn’t mind and I was already asking the Malaysian lady a million questions. Satisfied with the design and price quoted until she told me it will cost RM250 TO SHIP THE 600 PIECES OF WEDDING CARDS AND ENVELOPES TO SINGAPORE. 2 5 0 W T H. So I’m back to using what my aunt is providing. I’ll have to liaise directly with her wedding card vendor and I won’t know the designs until end of the month when he’s back in Singapore so we’ll see. Lesson learnt lah. Jangan gatal tengok tengok instagram kalau dah settle benda. Buat sakit hati je haha.

For this month I’m left to settle the rental of aircooler units, booking of void deck this Saturday, and buying kains for my family next Sunday. Yay! Excited to be busy with wedding planning all over again hehe.

Aduh bapak! Dak dik duk hatiku!

THIS IS MY WEDDING JAM OKAY!! My mother’s brother got married when I was exactly a year old and I have zero memories of the wedding, obviously, I mean was a baby wth. But there were some videos of the wedding (was there already a camcorder in 1992??) and I swear I think this song was on repeat the entire time?! It’s like I don’t hear any other songs being played but this. So this is my only memory of my uncle’s wedding. When we were preparing for my brother’s wedding two weeks ago, I made everyone in the house listen to this on repeat and in turn they got super pissed with me. And you can bet what will be overplayed on my own wedding… BUT I LOVE THIS SONG. Especially the dance move at the 2:52 minute.

Anyway, happy update! I (okay fine, my father..) made the deposit to the caterer yesterday night! And the caterer is my.. aunt! Not the same aunt who had the song above on repeat on her wedding eh haha. A few days before the meeting my father had already created his own menu!! When he was reading the menu to me I literally felt like this ??!!??!?! You know how some people always say things like “oohh, bila agaknya dapat makan nasi minyak eh hehe” when they’re hinting about your wedding day? I have no answer for this people because there won’t be nasi minyak on my wedding day!! My father proposed a nasi padang menu to my aunt!! Rendang padang?? Sotong sumbat??? Mana seh dia dapat idea ni semua? I know there are many others who had such spread on their weddings but nasi minyak and ayam masak merah and SAMBAL GORENG PENGANTIN (T_T) is such a staple wedding food I thought I would have those! Pakkal it’s my aunt. Kalau tak takde orang agaknya nak layan dia punya tekak nak makan ayam kalio.

The package also includes decor, sound entertainment, invitation cards, and wedding favors. Initially I already had a vendor in mind to do my cards and favors, a package which will cost me $1,600. I thought this was okay for something that is so pretty (you know, those floral/watercolor designs that’s everywhere on instagram) but suddenly taking up the package seems much more ideal. $1,600 is a hell lot of money I get to save. Besides, the design of the invites in the package is those kinda cards you’d get years back case kena bukak sini flip sana which to me is very classic. Of course there are people who still do this lah yang sanggup drive up to johor but the ones I receive now are just single piece invites. Tengok lah, benda merepek nitty gritty gini yang aku focus on. Mana bapak aku tak bising.

And the decor’s pretty decent too! I had actually emailed at least ten decor companies for their rates because I was quite adamant about having a separate vendor for this when my parents decided to engage my aunt as the caterer. But they’re all at least $3,000 and I think it would have to come out from my own pocket and cannot lah guys, three grand is no joke. With additional stage/tentage at the void deck, inshallah everything will please my eyes. I’ll just get my aunt to inform me of the upcoming wedding dates she’s cooking for so I can kepo kepo and get the feel. There will be two decor companies for me to choose from and when the time comes, I’ll just work with the one I like more.

Also, my aunt asked if I already have a cake (again, I have one in mind that I want to use) and I was surprised that she wanted to sponsor me one! I think it’s one of those cake in a jar kinda tower because she kept showing me pictures of that. Alhamdulillah. I was quoted $300+ for my cake choice but between this and saving money, I’m all about the latter right now.

Things are going smoothly and inshallah it will be as smooth throughout this entire journey of wedding planning. I wanted to settle the major vendors by the end of the year but it’s not even November yet. I guess I can really relek now and save more money for next year’s expenses like barang-barang dulang and cincin kahwin.