-90: ROMM & Bridal & RN

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(Photo Credit: Hafizudin Hamdan)

We took leave on the 10th to settle both our ROMM and outfit selection with our bridal. I have been looking forward to this day because yay settle benda benda kahwin so excited lah sikit since I haven’t been doing any wedding planning lately… even though it’s three months away haha.

ROMM was.. ROMM lah y’all know what to expect kan. We went on Monday, reached there at 10.30am and it was packed! We were told by the lady who verified our details that it basically works the same as polyclinics; mondays and fridays will always be packed. But it was a nice kinda packed? Seeing all these other young couples who are probably as eager as us to settle down. “Bapak, IC pak mana??” and “Pa, you can go in now. No no you go in first, nanti I masuk.” Hahaha kecoh gila I love it. I always thought we had to enter separately but maybe they were rushing for time so Ghibli and I entered at the same time? I don’t know. We were done in 45 minutes so maybe kalau pergi on Wednesday when it’s tak packed boleh abis in 10 minutes kot haha. Before making a move my parents took photos everywhere macam lah dorang yang baru abis interview.

From Fort Canning to Mustafa for lunch and then headed to Toh Guan after zuhur for Naw.warah Bri.dal! I guess it was okay.. but can’t help to feel I’m actually disappointed, like something I don’t want to admit? I want to pen down my experience but also don’t feel comfortable cos maybe there are people here who know them personally or maybe she’s in this platform too since she’s a BTB herself. But it’s not them lah. It’s me. It’s my fat ass to be precise. But it’s my blog kan so anyway..

We were told to choose the outfits we want to try but it was hard to see the dresses properly when they’re on the racks. Chose the ones I’ve saved on instagram but when I was in the fitting room, I couldn’t fit into any of them. I wasn’t sure if they’ve opened their jahitan or if it’s already at the max though. Ghibli’s rule to songket is only pastels and no loud/bold patterns/colours. And at this point I was freaking out because I feel like I didn’t have much choice left? Picking what I like now becomes picking what I can fit into. Sedih tak dengar? Haha. Suddenly I was made to try on this red/maroon songket with gold embellishments and although it looked good on me (hahaha), I know Ghibli didn’t like how it looked on him although he said it’s fine. I wanted to cry because what if I end up wearing something I don’t like and that I’m only wearing it because it’s the only one that fits?? For the record, I’m a UK10 for top and a UK12 for bottom. I’ve always had problems accepting my body and this bridal fitting only magnified my issue. Gahhhh.

So did I manage to find the right outfits? Yeah, sorta. They weren’t in my list prior to the appointment but you can’t have everything you want right. Also, I tried on at least 10 different dresses (6 songkets and 4 evening gowns) in three hours so I told myself I better like at least three of them. Ghibli got his two light coloured songkets so he’s not complaining and I really like the songket I’ll be wearing on my reception day so I look forward to that more. This was an exhausting appointment. I don’t know how brides are okay with not trying on outfits. So many I thought would look good on me actually tak lah lawa sangat hahahais

On Tuesday, RN (or his team I don’t know and tak nak tahu) texted if I was okay to meet him on Saturday (15th, yesterday) and I quickly said yes haha. I did text them the week before asking when would the first appointment be and after a few texts exchanged they still hadn’t answered my question and I got blue-ticked. So this time I said yes right away. I asked how the appointment was gonna be and they said 20 minutes hahaha terus skeptical gila okay.

Saturday came and the meeting did take less than half an hour okay! But we really got everything settled so lain kali husnudzon lahhh haha. We came knowing the exact color and design we I want so I guess this played a part. I said I because the only question he asked Ghibli was, “nak cekak musang ke telok blangah?” while I nak ni, nak tu, macam gini, macam gitu. I showed him a lot of his designs I found on instagram that he himself have never seen before (as in the photos) and he’s very surprised I managed to get hold of them ahaha. I’d rather get my inspirations from the designer himself so at least I know he’s capable of doing the same you know what I mean? RN is very accommodating and gave his opinions a lot. I told him I wanted a soft mermaid cut but my hips is telling me not to. He disagreed and said it’s very possible so yay. Random information: when he took my hip measurement he said Shila Amzah has the same measurement. Oh..kay.. can..

We also booked our flights for our honeymoon after skyscanner prompted that the price dropped $106 per pax! So we managed to get it at $338 and today I checked it’s back to $475 nyehehehe.

So there! My eventful wedding planning week.  Pending appointment with my decor, replies from my card vendor and henna artist of choice, my girls to choose the fabric they want to wear, wedding shoes and bouquet to arrive from online. All in this month!

100, soon

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Selamat hari raya, everyone! ♥♥♥

Right now we’re in between the 3-4 months to the wedding, and next week it will be the start of double digit countdown time. I can’t believe how fast time passes by. The start of the year feels like yesterday but at the same time it feels like so long ago? I know 3.5 months will go by in a flash but I still feel like my wedding isn’t until a year from now. I haven’t thought much about the wedding itself, we’ve been mostly discussing about our life after like housing (boleh jadi bahan pergaduhan everytime we discuss this k) and our raya itinerary for next year haha.

We finally got our rings settled yesterday. Nothing fancy, nothing too simple either. It has a thick band and I really like it! There was one time I was at this particular Lee Hwa outlet and the SA insisted I get myself a solitaire ring and you know lah, I cannot wear a diamond solitaire. The one I’ll end up liking would probably cost $5xxx and the ones I can afford would look so dainty on my already thick finger. But he totally disregarded the one I had my eyes my on and said my choice is nothing as compared to the solitaire yang dia mati mati nak aku beli?? Sure it’s nice but ape ni. Ding dong ding dong here and there and when he realised that we were not gonna make any deposit that night, member terus brought us to the door and said see you again next time. Dia halau kita okay!!! So far all of the customer service we’ve gotten at other LH outlets were really good but this one made me want to vomit only pfft.

July should be the month where we get to select our outfits and I am soooo looking forward to this walaupun it’s at freaking toh guan. There are some outfits that I like but not sure how they’ll look on me and Ghibli so luckily this bridal can try try as many as we like. And only then I’ll decide what colors my girls will be wearing. We’re getting our nikah outfits done by RN and this is something I am absolutely dreading. I’ve heard quite a few bad/mediocre reviews and now I don’t know if paying an additional $500 was a good choice. The customer service is horrendous. I asked them to correct my contact number on the invoice which they got wrong and they were all like “because i follow what u gave me above” LOL yah I accidentally gave a digit wrong which I corrected within seconds takkan bengap sangat masih pakai number tu!! Ape punya alasan ni. Then a month ago I texted again asking when would be the first appointment and they said, “I will get bck to u regarding the slots ok. it will be this mth.” Wahlao that time this month is ramadan okay and I asked again lah kalau July boleh tak and then she gave me the blue tick. Something tells me she’ll end up calling that wrong number when the time comes. I don’t know if I mengada-ngada sangat but ya Allah I don’t want to deal with them lah 😦

My brother and his wife are only moving out exactly a month to the wedding. This means I have less than a month to turn the room into a bridal chamber. To get new furniture, to paint, to decorate in less than a month seems daunting. There are so many other things to settle, aren’t there? Decor, bridal, hantaran, henna. Dulu cakap nak do everything after raya and now that the time has come, I have no idea where to start. I’m still pretty relaxed. Don’t know if that’s a good thing.

 

5 months to go so here’s an update!

Marriage preparation ourse: Went for our 1 day course at Apkim yesterday and we found ourselves crying 20 minutes into it haha sampai the trainer said she’s never come across such cengeng couple during these courses. First half was the personalised session while the second half we joined five other couples and it was hilarious. Except for the part where the second trainer keeps making sexual jokes and I don’t know about you, but I HATE it when Malays make sexual jokes like I will honestly get so uncomfortable and cringe. Not saying I’m a prude but sigh. I understand the whole layaning the husband is a wife’s responsibility but the whole time during the course it sounds like as if wives are sexual slaves. Then the whole class started laughing when I asked, “abeh kalau isteri nak tapi suami tak nak?” and the trainer lagi boleh cakap, “kalau gitu suami tu bodoh namanya!!” I don’t know how to feel about this. Oh wells that aside, most importantly, everything taught ada unsur-unsur agama. I’ve also been attending marriage related classes conducted by Muslim Youth Forum since beginning of the year when I’m free and the recent one titled “Sharing Your Husband with Your Mother In Law” was absolutely amazing.

Kain for family: The family has also settled their kains for Saturday and Sunday. Lepas beban because we’ve been debating what colors to wear and my brother told me off when I said no to one of the laces because “bukan kau yang pakai ape!!” haha memang betul but NO.

Dulang: Tarte had their festival sale last month and Sephora had the recent black sale and with this, I spent a whopping $7xx on makeup lol I hate myself Banyak lah nak save duit. Some of the items will go on my dulang so I’ve got about three settled. Left with two more dulangs. Need to buy ring and last dulang next month so tak payah pikir pasal ni lagi. Such unnecessary spending haha ugh

Tok Kadi/ROMM: We can register this coming week and I’m not sweating about this since my tunang and his mom will settle on “booking” of the tok kadi. Initially wanted my uncle-in-law to be my saksi and I was set on this for months until I realise how come I didn’t ask my brother eh? My mom talked to him about it to see if he’s okay and he was like yes of course and then she said “okay jangan pergi mana mana hari tu” ??????? Adik dia nak nikah kot?? Mana eh dia nak pergi?? Kelakar seram mak aku ni satu

Wedding card: Talked to the guy on whatsapp (my aunt got me to liaise directly with him) and he sent me basically a million pictures of wedding card samples until I don’t know how to choose. Coincidentally he lives right behind my workplace so I asked if it’s okay to meet him during lunch time to see the samples in real life and he said okay so yay meeting him tomorrow to finalise. Then left with the details and hopefully can no longer think about this by end of this month.

I don’t know what else. Still relaxed. About 150 days left. I hope to not worry about this during Ramadan so I can fully focus on my much needed detox and cleansing myself haha. Things should start getting busy in July. Kalau July pon masih relaxed aku tak tahu ape nak cakap.