-59: Dua bulan lagi!

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(Photo credit: Sham.sydar A.ni)

Two days ago was our first year anniversary of being engaged! And in exactly two months this time we’ll be done with everything, packing for our honeymoon and can finally put this all aside but right now I can’t so here’s a lengthy update on three main things.

Wedding card: All 600 arrived yesterday but the guy got the design completely wrong. Same color scheme but it’s not what I asked for. I’ve been liaising with him but on the day when I went over to his place to choose the design, I liaised with his wife and I suspect she had written the card code wrong. What’s ridiculous is that he knew which design I’ve been talking about when he’s doing the drafts yet he settled with what his wife had written. I’m not blaming the wife lah but.. ape ni..

My aunt (the caterer/planner who works with this guy since the card booking is part of her package) is upset that this happened and wanted him to reprint everything for me. I said no lah of course. Am I upset? Obviously lah. I was outside when my aunt came to deliver the cards and my mom sent me a picture and I was like wait….. what….. no….

Ikutkan hati nak je dia reprint cos I don’t know if he’s apologetic about it like he didn’t even text me to say sorry about the mix up. But the content is correct and it’s just the front design yang lain which doesn’t look too bad lah actually. Just that it’s not what I initially wanted so adalah terkilan sikit. I’ll just let this go lah. With this my wedding card is settled so yay I guess.

Henna: The (only) henna artist that I want since April went mia after ramadan for more than a month so I couldn’t book a slot (she said she’d only open in July but mia) so I was just waiting and waiting. She suddenly had a booth last two weekends and I was ecstatic okay and super kancheong so I made Ghibli drive me there to book her for my wedding…. only to find out that she’ll be overseas on my wedding week. I was just like …wtf but haha it’s not her fault lah obviously. But if you had replied my emails I could have used the time to source for alternatives you know? Haha whatever lah.

So I did just the past two weeks and they are either not free or I don’t like their works (i.e. super dark/black cappings). The one who fits the bill now decided to not reply my email from two weeks ago despite me sending two follow ups. Again I’ll just wait until she suddenly tells me she’s not available so I have an excuse to punch myself in the face. In the end kalau tak ada then I’ll just go henna-less lah. Tak payah nak susah susah makan panadol pasal pening sangat dengan bau dia sampai muntah muntah.. which happened to me when I got mine done at the booth.

Decor: Again this falls under my aunt but the guy has his own decor company so he’s pretty legit and I’m not worried. We met up two weeks ago and I thought we’d be discussing the color etc but it was just to discuss where goes what. It’ll be a completely different set up from my brother’s wedding last October in terms of where the food will be, having an extra tentage for the pelamin, using only half of the void deck so it’s gonna be cramp af with guests and tables.

He said we’ll only be discussing the decor itself next month after he’s settled with his upcoming events. I don’t think I’m so particular about this. I know the color scheme that I want and it’s all something that he’s done before so I leave it to him cos I know he’s gonna pull it off. I don’t have a moodboard up on my pinterest because it’s just gonna sakitkan hati when reality doesn’t match up with my expectations. Like my wedding cards ahahhahais

I should be done settling the photobooth matters this week, stamping my wedding envelopes this weekend because I finally received my customised rubber stamp yay, finalise the itinerary (tak abis abis seh ni dari start of the year lagi)… and I think that’s all for this month. Everything else I will dump to next month to settle!!

100, soon

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Selamat hari raya, everyone! ♥♥♥

Right now we’re in between the 3-4 months to the wedding, and next week it will be the start of double digit countdown time. I can’t believe how fast time passes by. The start of the year feels like yesterday but at the same time it feels like so long ago? I know 3.5 months will go by in a flash but I still feel like my wedding isn’t until a year from now. I haven’t thought much about the wedding itself, we’ve been mostly discussing about our life after like housing (boleh jadi bahan pergaduhan everytime we discuss this k) and our raya itinerary for next year haha.

We finally got our rings settled yesterday. Nothing fancy, nothing too simple either. It has a thick band and I really like it! There was one time I was at this particular Lee Hwa outlet and the SA insisted I get myself a solitaire ring and you know lah, I cannot wear a diamond solitaire. The one I’ll end up liking would probably cost $5xxx and the ones I can afford would look so dainty on my already thick finger. But he totally disregarded the one I had my eyes my on and said my choice is nothing as compared to the solitaire yang dia mati mati nak aku beli?? Sure it’s nice but ape ni. Ding dong ding dong here and there and when he realised that we were not gonna make any deposit that night, member terus brought us to the door and said see you again next time. Dia halau kita okay!!! So far all of the customer service we’ve gotten at other LH outlets were really good but this one made me want to vomit only pfft.

July should be the month where we get to select our outfits and I am soooo looking forward to this walaupun it’s at freaking toh guan. There are some outfits that I like but not sure how they’ll look on me and Ghibli so luckily this bridal can try try as many as we like. And only then I’ll decide what colors my girls will be wearing. We’re getting our nikah outfits done by RN and this is something I am absolutely dreading. I’ve heard quite a few bad/mediocre reviews and now I don’t know if paying an additional $500 was a good choice. The customer service is horrendous. I asked them to correct my contact number on the invoice which they got wrong and they were all like “because i follow what u gave me above” LOL yah I accidentally gave a digit wrong which I corrected within seconds takkan bengap sangat masih pakai number tu!! Ape punya alasan ni. Then a month ago I texted again asking when would be the first appointment and they said, “I will get bck to u regarding the slots ok. it will be this mth.” Wahlao that time this month is ramadan okay and I asked again lah kalau July boleh tak and then she gave me the blue tick. Something tells me she’ll end up calling that wrong number when the time comes. I don’t know if I mengada-ngada sangat but ya Allah I don’t want to deal with them lah 😦

My brother and his wife are only moving out exactly a month to the wedding. This means I have less than a month to turn the room into a bridal chamber. To get new furniture, to paint, to decorate in less than a month seems daunting. There are so many other things to settle, aren’t there? Decor, bridal, hantaran, henna. Dulu cakap nak do everything after raya and now that the time has come, I have no idea where to start. I’m still pretty relaxed. Don’t know if that’s a good thing.

 

5 months to go so here’s an update!

Marriage preparation ourse: Went for our 1 day course at Apkim yesterday and we found ourselves crying 20 minutes into it haha sampai the trainer said she’s never come across such cengeng couple during these courses. First half was the personalised session while the second half we joined five other couples and it was hilarious. Except for the part where the second trainer keeps making sexual jokes and I don’t know about you, but I HATE it when Malays make sexual jokes like I will honestly get so uncomfortable and cringe. Not saying I’m a prude but sigh. I understand the whole layaning the husband is a wife’s responsibility but the whole time during the course it sounds like as if wives are sexual slaves. Then the whole class started laughing when I asked, “abeh kalau isteri nak tapi suami tak nak?” and the trainer lagi boleh cakap, “kalau gitu suami tu bodoh namanya!!” I don’t know how to feel about this. Oh wells that aside, most importantly, everything taught ada unsur-unsur agama. I’ve also been attending marriage related classes conducted by Muslim Youth Forum since beginning of the year when I’m free and the recent one titled “Sharing Your Husband with Your Mother In Law” was absolutely amazing.

Kain for family: The family has also settled their kains for Saturday and Sunday. Lepas beban because we’ve been debating what colors to wear and my brother told me off when I said no to one of the laces because “bukan kau yang pakai ape!!” haha memang betul but NO.

Dulang: Tarte had their festival sale last month and Sephora had the recent black sale and with this, I spent a whopping $7xx on makeup lol I hate myself Banyak lah nak save duit. Some of the items will go on my dulang so I’ve got about three settled. Left with two more dulangs. Need to buy ring and last dulang next month so tak payah pikir pasal ni lagi. Such unnecessary spending haha ugh

Tok Kadi/ROMM: We can register this coming week and I’m not sweating about this since my tunang and his mom will settle on “booking” of the tok kadi. Initially wanted my uncle-in-law to be my saksi and I was set on this for months until I realise how come I didn’t ask my brother eh? My mom talked to him about it to see if he’s okay and he was like yes of course and then she said “okay jangan pergi mana mana hari tu” ??????? Adik dia nak nikah kot?? Mana eh dia nak pergi?? Kelakar seram mak aku ni satu

Wedding card: Talked to the guy on whatsapp (my aunt got me to liaise directly with him) and he sent me basically a million pictures of wedding card samples until I don’t know how to choose. Coincidentally he lives right behind my workplace so I asked if it’s okay to meet him during lunch time to see the samples in real life and he said okay so yay meeting him tomorrow to finalise. Then left with the details and hopefully can no longer think about this by end of this month.

I don’t know what else. Still relaxed. About 150 days left. I hope to not worry about this during Ramadan so I can fully focus on my much needed detox and cleansing myself haha. Things should start getting busy in July. Kalau July pon masih relaxed aku tak tahu ape nak cakap.

9 months to go!

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Ni kalau orang mengandung lagi 9 bulan dah beranak seh. And today is also our 45th month together gether. I haven’t done any wedding preparations since the last appointment we had with the caterer last October. All the confirmed vendors aside, I think I’m left with these to think about…

  • Marriage Preparatory Course
    • Very inclined towards the Apkim’s 1 day course because there’s the one on one session. Hoping to go before the fasting month starts in May. Maybe the earlier the better and we can treat this as a pre-marriage counselling because we have been arguing quite a fair bit while having wedding talks hahahaha 😦
    • Book by: February, to go in April
  • Henna
    • Asal lah inai mahal gila sampai $200!! Tapi dah tahu mahal tetap nak jugak. I am waiting for one to open her October slots and I’m gonna book it right away before I gatal see see another IG page…….. LOL totally just emailed two other vendors in between these sentences while browsing through instagram wth. My only criteria is that the inai cannot be so dark it’s almost black like what I see most of the time. Not nice okay macam hotdog terbakar.
    • Book by: The moment she opens her slot.. hopefully in March?
  • Venue
    • Bawah block sudah lah. So many people asked how come I don’t want to do at the CC across my house. Leceh lah okay buat kat CC nak kena layan karenah mak bapak aku yang suka rewang sampai 12-1am. This needs to be booked in April, six months prior. I have no backup plans so if the void deck is not available or if there happens to be some construction works then gg k I’ll redha with anything. Meeting with an HDB officer next week to discuss what’s allowed and what’s not. Don’t know if this is necessary but saje je pasal aku suka buang masa.
    • Book by: 14 April 2017
  • Tok Kadi/ROMM registration
    • Ghibli will settle this because his mom is close to one of the naib kadis. Really no preference at all. Though it’d be nice to get someone old and someone whose khutbah boleh menusuk ke jiwa sampai bila bila. Honestly I’m confused by this process. Need to read up on this more before the time comes so tak lah gabra sangat.
    • Book by: 18 May 2017
  • Wedding Bands
    • Okay this one I very excited! Sometimes when I’m shopping alone I’d pop in to look at the diamond ringssss hehehe. And still haven’t found anything that I like. Must stack well with my engagement ring but don’t want it to be too high lah, must have side diamonds lah. I recently discovered how wallet friendly (loljk, there’s no such thing as “wallet friendly” when it comes to diamond rings) cluster diamond rings are, as compared to a solitaire diamond. So this is something I might consider. My wedding ring will also be my mas kahwin most likely.
    • Settle by: July (during GSS period)
  • Dulang gifts
    • We’ve decided to exchange 5 dulangs each. My aunt and his sister will help us with the dulangs so no need to find a vendor for this yay! We have yet to finalise on the items but I guess this can wait? I have been controlling myself from buying anything at Sephora or any new makeup because I am gonna go all out for my dulang k.
    • Settle by: July (during GSS period)
  • Wedding Shoes
    • The only shoes that I like he doesn’t allow me to get because the heels look like… anal beads HAHA perangai kurang ajar betul. I don’t fancy the silver glittery kinda heels. Love the idea of clashing colors so most likely will be settling for Melissa since I can’t afford a Manolos haha. But this depends on the outfits I will be wearing so after July can settle lah hor. Kasut tak important sangat.
    • Edit: Banyak punya tak important sangat. This entry was drafted last week but today I found the shoes he made fun of on carousell at 70% of the original price. Brand new, my size, the preferred color, can do meetup in the east. So I get lor! Waiting for the seller to reply so I can make payment and close the deal!
    • Settle by: July (during GSS period) SETTLED!
  • Bridal Bouquet
    • Getting fresh flowers for a two day event doesn’t make sense.. right? I don’t know how to take care of them so they will confirm wilt by the time I sanding on my side. Not sure where I can get fresh looking artificial flowers. Not too keen on those ribbon bouquets either. I don’t know what to do 😦
    • Edit: Found quite a number of carousellers who can customise artifical flowers for bridal bouquets. One even does rental of her flowers at $10-$20 per day I think.
    • Settle by: August (after selection of outfits)
  • Wedding Car
    • Not important. Again, Ghibli will settle this because we’re using his brother in law’s car and he will also take care of the decorations etc. We’re just using the car to transport us from my place after the nikah to his reception so no need for anything fancy.
    • Settle by: September?
  • Kompang
    • He is not comfortable with the whole kompang/silat thing and my parents said there isn’t a need for this since we’re not going over to his side. But I want 😦 I cannot imagine how it’ll be for him to march in without any kompang at the back. Not awkward ke? Then after he sits with me at the dais what happens next?? I feel like this is something he might eventually have to give in..
    • Book by: =(

Actually quite a lot of things to settle I realise. But nothing that I can settle right now, in this month. Everything also wanna buy during GSS. Everything also think can only settle after selection of outfits in July. Left with appointments with vendors so need to know what kinda feel I want for my wedding video, any particular theme for the decor, come up with designs for our nikah outfits from RN, decide on the customised backdrop and props for photobooth. And also to finalise on the itinerary and timings for everything!! Oh yah, the bridal room which my mom has been obsessing with. And the kids berkat pasal aku suka sangat buang duit. And to have or not to have bridesmaids?

I suddenly feel overwhelmed and at the same time also feel like I can pull a “lepas raya ah nanti boleh settle” excuse for everything now haha :\