Tolong buatkan itinerary please!

It’s December soon.. which means we have about 10 months to go.. which is very fast.. and slow at the same time.. but we’re still adamant about starting it proper next year. Whatever proper is heh.

I’ve always had this idea of having the nikah and bertandang on the same day because it’s so easy and orang cakap biar abiskan penat satu hari. This was blatantly rejected by my parents because they think it’d be too hectic? And “oh, kakak dengan abang nikah hari sabtu so yours will be the same lah” -.- The only thing my parents and I have agreed on is a big nope to a combined reception. It saves money but.. when you’re boyan and your mom would like to believe she knows every boyan in singapore.. it’s not feasible at all. Imagine 1000pax wedding, and your invites is 750 while the groom’s side is 250.. mana aci lol. Combined lah sangat.

So I was playing the nikah on saturday and sanding on sunday itinerary in my head for so many weeks until Ghibli’s mom mentioned all the caterers she liked are fully booked or they don’t do weddings for 500 pax. Less than a year seh, mane nak carik slot lagi. And now aku dah malas nak type panjang panjang so this will all be in bullet point:

  • Both side suddenly agreed to have his reception after the nikah on Saturday while mine will be the whole day on Sunday
  • Because it won’t be held at his SIL’s void deck anymore (which is 10mins away from my place and something I was extremely happy about cos it saves a lot of time on travelling back and forth) but at a restaurant in Orchard Road….. punya jauh
  • Which means the nikah in the early afternoon has to be pushed forward to in the morning at 10am-ish as his reception is from 12pm-4pm
  • Ghibli and I are okay with wearing the nikah outfit the entire day but my family were all like “ehhh ape ni pengantin busuk busuk sama baju satu hari berlengas nanti badan” and insisted we get our own baju nikah and have a change of outfit
  • Which I absolutely hate because I never had that creativity of designing my own outfit and I don’t know what kind of kain is appropriate enough for a nikah
  • At that point in time Raf.fiey Na.sir had their $550 promo and my father was sold when I told him about it and he got it for me (YAY!) but communicating with the person behind it is sooooo annoying somehow I’m not looking forward having to deal with this vendor
  • But wearing two songkets from Naw.warah is making me secretly excited hehe
  • My biggest worry now is the extra $$$ we have to fork out because there’s no way the whole two day event will be under 10hours for mak andam, kakak amek gambar and abang amek video 😦
  • The itinerary is also a headache because wouldn’t my Sunday reception technically be a combined wedding sans his guests? There won’t be kompang and would it be easier if he got ready at my place but this means there won’t be the whole bertandang pengantin perempuan duduk kat pelamin kena tutup dengan kipas is it? Vat is diz……

I am looking forward to next year. I am definitely looking forward to meet Ramadan again inshallah. I also managed to khatam the Quran again two weeks ago alhamdulillah and would love to do it once more before October next year. And lose some weight without having to give up spicy nuggets 😦 Research on a good and beneficial marriage prep course that won’t make Ghibli play twister with eight other men infront of the whole class hahaha..

Actually the more I see it, the more starting proper means changing myself as opposed to planning for the wedding.

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6 thoughts on “Tolong buatkan itinerary please!

  1. hey babe! i totally understand ur frustrations.. omg planning a wedding is sooo confusing and to suit everyone’s needs and desires (paling important is try to elak from gaduh with our parents and elders but yesss it’s sooo frustrating at times hahaha)

    anyway based on my planning and i kinda went thru the same confusion as u, hope this helps:

    “My biggest worry now is the extra $$$ we have to fork out because there’s no way the whole two day event will be under 10hours for mak andam, kakak amek gambar and abang amek video”
    – try to factor in the extra hours as much as possible because you won’t know just how much time you will need them to stay… i think once u finalise the itinerary, the extra hours and charges will be easier for u to figure out 🙂

    “The itinerary is also a headache because wouldn’t my Sunday reception technically be a combined wedding sans his guests? There won’t be kompang and would it be easier if he got ready at my place but this means there won’t be the whole bertandang pengantin perempuan duduk kat pelamin kena tutup dengan kipas is it? Vat is diz……”
    – i’m doing 2 days like you also. mine is (Saturday: nikah + sanding with kompang and hadang with me sitting alone at the pelamin with the kipas covering my face lolol at MY side and then Sunday: both me and husband walking in WITH kompang and MY family members “Berarak” towards the guy’s side pelamin, no hadang cos usually i think hadang is just for when the guy going to sit at the pelamin for the 1st time). so i THINK la, for urs, u can still have kompang on sunday! so technically on sunday korang da walk in together… where u choose to get ready is up to u, but usually ppl will get ready at the rumah of the majlis cos more convenient, setakat turun bawah da sampai heh. so u need to get ur family members and kompang group to wait bawah block and all of u walk together to the pelamin.

    at least that’s how mine will be, and how my cousins’ punya was…

    hope it helped!!

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    • so to clarify right, you guys can still have the whole you sitting on the pelamin with the kipas tutup muka while he goes thru the hadang by YOUR family members, but you gotta ask if ur husband is ok with doing it at his majlis on saturday? i’ve seen it being done before la babe, so don’t worry ok? :):):)

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      • actually, sorry. i think if ur groom’s majlis is on saturday, then BOTH of u will walk in together and have to go thru the hadang together while holding hands :):) but the hadang will be by the groom’s family members. sorry for the confusion.

        so on sunday pulak, also the same thing. go thru hadang together holding hands, and the hadang will be by YOUR fam members. 🙂

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      • Hello! Wahh thank you for the input!! My friend recently had a wedding similar to what I’ve been planning for mine and I think for now I’m settling with no kompang and no hadang on Saturday and we’ll just walk in to his venue together. Then on Sunday on my side baru ada kompang and hadang by my family members.

        Just that the only problem now is my fiancé doesn’t want any kompang.. grrrr… so macam awkward gitu berarak and then sanding with no kompang. Like so kosong lol. Will take quite a lot to change his mind haha. So you getting kompang on both days? You mind sharing the cost so I could get a ballpark figure? Heh!

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      • yup! i’m taking kompang on both days 🙂 around 1k seh babe.. haha but my fiance yang settle cos my parents were quite firm saying kompang is one of ‘Those’ things the guys must settle.. however in modern context, who really cares kan? as long as everyone is happy.

        you can don’t have the live kompang, but rather, just play kompang music on the audio system. i’ve seen that happen too 🙂

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      • 1k omg…….. Haha same! I talked to my mom about it and she’s quite adamant that this one the guy should settle. But in my context it’s more of like I yang nak, so I yang bayar hahaaha.

        Yeah.. I’ve seen those too, just get the emcee to play it. But macam takde feel lah pulak. Hahaha ni case mati mati nak tapi takde orang nak support!

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